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Karmen Jurela

It appears like normal behaviour.

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Most of us are raised to value helpfulness, loyalty, kindness, tolerance, perseverance, understanding, and similar.

These virtues are pure treasures of our social lives and make deep friendship, family life, and connection with others, even strangers, possible.

When you are in a cordial relationship, you naturally act more helpful, loyal, and tolerant for their benefit than usual. You have more understanding for your loved ones than for others. That is because you look at them with loving eyes.

Differences between addicted and not addicted relationships

In the relationship dynamic with an addicted person, these healthy and supportive character traits can have an unfavourable effect: They will not…


I think I know what you mean, dear Martin, and as always your writing and thinking are a pleasure to my senses!

At the same time, I know that the one that wants justice wants the death of the other.

That is a principal of our world that shows in polarities.

Your suggestion to follow our principals does not feel complete with me. I know that mental orientation, along with our principals, values and similar can guide us through turbulence, chaos and fog. Knowing our values can direct us back to our core. …


Such a great article, again! Super, Beat!

Thank you!


We live in a world that fosters addictions and punishes inner freedom.

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Photo by Eric Ward on Unsplash

I heard an Interview with Stefan Hiene at the Suchtlos Glücklich Kongress about freeing from addictions. It is in German, and you can watch it till February 28.

Stefan rightly says that we are all staggered and addicted, being products of our environment.

Our world supports addictive behaviour and punishes inner freedom.

That seems to be true for all people:

Parents who want their children’s best demand the child’s maximum conformity, creating resistance to reality.
This is the best breeding ground for cover-up, denial, lies and deceit, and therefore, co-dependency and addiction.

Parents who do not want the best for…


I am; therefore I create!

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Cover of my new book, Karmen Jurela

I have written another book — actually i think I will publish it as a bundle of two books.
The first volume contains a theoretical, popular scientific guide for a daily journal, and the second, a practical journal.

I designed the package to make you create the vibrant life of your dreams.

The German version will be published around March - April 2021. Volume 1 translates “I Create; therefore, I Am — From Theory to Practice”.
Volume 2 translates “I Am; Therefore, I Create —The Journal”.

On January, 6., the proof print arrived, and I have immediately started working with…


Commitment Makes the Difference.

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Picture from and of my Love, Sebastian Outback.

There is no perfect German translation for the word “commitment”.

Google Translator suggests, among others, promise, engagement, prospect, participation, involvement, assurance, hope, bonding, obligation, but none precisely captures the meaning of the word commitment.

Yet commitment is one of the most critical keys to a fulfilling life. If you want to make a difference, start with your commitment.

When you fully commit, you leave behind the system of insecurity, self-sabotage, and negative thinking.

Commitment does not stop at inner conviction but is immediately accompanied by deciding activities; first, second and third concrete steps to carry out the project or to…


If I can do it, you can do it, too!

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Photo by Karmen Jurela

Today I want to share about writing my novel, Rauschliebe.

I had several reasons and motivations for writing it, including fortune, coming to terms with my own co-dependency and stepping into my creative power. And, yes, I admit — writing made me feel happy and free.

I am here to tell you that you can do that, too!

A couple of years ago, I had just signed into a six-weeks writing-course because I had the time and I liked the idea. Back then, I have worked as a full-time dentist in my dental practice for many years, and I felt…


Hearing this sentence made me break down

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Photo by Jing Xi Lau on Unsplash

Growing up, I heard that it was dangerous for girls and women to be beautiful and sexy a thousand times.

“Do not wear lipstick, nor that skirt, or you will invite evil!” prophesied the elders to every generation of beautiful fellow women.

To look sexy meant to be unsafe.

What was she wearing?

The same elders asked, “What was she wearing?”, after a man had violated, raped, or killed a woman.
Even prosecutors and judges asked about the woman’s attire to get an “overall and objective” impression of the story. …


Boost your Affirmations with Afformations!?

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Foto von Allan Mas von Pexels

You have probably encountered affirmations before:
You formulate a sentence with a desirable statement as if it were already a reality. Affirmations often begin with “I am …” or “I have …” because these words are some of the most convincing words to impregnate our brains.
Great affirmations sound like “I am happy”, “I am healthy”, “I am strong”, “I have everything I want” and similar.

Words and Hearing

Everything we listen to throughout the day shapes our brains. If you hear, “you are competent,” all your life you will eventually start to believe that you are competent. Hearing this will lead you…

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